One word that all of us use quite often in many different contexts is Confidence! You need it. You have to have it. Some people have it a lot. Some people struggle even for a little bit. The same person some days have it and then some days tend to lose it for no known reason.
How does that work? Is it something you are born with it? Or you can work on it over a period.
How do you really make Confidence work for you? How do you build it? Since it is not one day process with one particular destination, how do you continue to build it?
Let us break this down and find out how to build confidence – step by step.
One can build confidence with time and experience. You gain it bit-by-bit as you progress through experiences. It is built by overcoming challenges and roadblocks. Now you can either let the events of life take over and hope that as it progresses, it is making you confident day by day.
Or you can intend to work on your confidence.
(Step-1) Identify little challenges which are stopping you from your best and work towards overcoming them. With each small challenge conquered, watch your confidence go a notch higher. Create small wins for yourself as you begin the journey.
As you gain momentum, aim for a big challenge once in a while to step up the speed of gaining confidence. Do not let small setbacks and failures discourage you. They will always be there. Many times we drown in setbacks. Rather get in the action mode. Pick up the lesson and move on. Everybody who has seen any success has failed also. Not a single person can claim that they have achieved everything they wanted to in the very first time. Feel free to go through life stories of your role models.
Be very specific about what you want to achieve. It’s hard to shoot if you do not know your aim. Find out what gives you confidence. You do not have to excel in every field. You may not be a great orator but can have a knack for picking the right investments and making sound financial decisions. Sometimes we spend way too much time staring at what we can’t do instead of what we can.
Start where you are, Do what you can.
Confidence is not only the ability to stand up in the crowded room and cast a spell on the audience with your great speech. If you can do it then Great, If you want to do it or need it for your job, practice then work on it. If you are not able to do it and neither need this skill for your career advancement, then don’t lose sleep over it.
(Step-2) Finding out what you need, what you want and why you want is a huge step towards gaining confidence.
Be true to yourself while you are analysing your strengths and next steps. Each journey is unique. We all are born with different skills and talents. Comparing yourself to your peers won’t take you anywhere. Comparing your today with your yesterday might bring you closer to your future promises. You have what it takes and then build some more skills. Surround yourself with people who are also rooting for your success, and you are good to go.
(Step-3) Another keyword to gain Confidence is Action. Wanting things, dreaming about them, planning and then not doing anything about it won’t change your confidence levels.
Some people dream of success, while other people get up every morning and make it happen.
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